Who are we to judge..

I was thinking today about how I use the words ‘what I know to be true’. What does that even mean… for what I know to be true can be completely different than what you know to be true, so how is anything really truth? My perception of truth is biased to what I have seen and felt, and what you know to be true is biased to what you have seen and felt … So who is right?

Maybe the answer is we both are right.



In our life we move forward quickly. We take steps in different directions, see things and try them out. Depending on where we end up, which path we take, we see various ways of living and thinking. We encounter different people with completely different outlooks on life, and hopefully decide for ourselves if we agree with them or if we should take our own stance. We take it all in and use our own character to make our own opinions as to what is right and what is wrong in this world. With this, my hope is that we remember that these opinions we create for ourselves are just that. Our own ideas on life and truth and we will not be quick to judge another for having a different view on their own life…



Who are we to judge anyone? It always hits me when I hear people talking about another person. Who are we to judge anything about any one when we have never walked in their shoes? How is it feasible to believe that we can make assumptions of what is true for another? What we think is just that, our completely unique opinions based solely on our distinct path and situations that we have seen. Maybe we are better off remembering to be impeccable with our own word, remembering what it is like to be judged.



Thinking about all this today, I came away with this… Since I believe that what I know to be true in this world is based solely on where I have been, situations I have encountered, and who I meet along the way, all I can do is continue to do just that. I will do all I can to go places I have never been… for how can I speak to something if I have never seen it. I will put myself in situations that I never thought about trying, just to experience more of all that is out there. I will introduce myself to people; listen to their stories and their hearts, because they might know truth that I have yet to see or be able to open my heart to things I never knew people have gone through.



Lastly I will try to speak less, use silence as an answer. Speak less on things I know nothing about. Making a note to later find out all there is to know on the subject. There is a whole world that is waiting to be explored. Vast subjects that I know nothing about, waiting to be researched and pondered… Opening our hearts to new ideas will keep us from falling into the trap of judging without knowledge or forethought.

You are Perfect to Me

You are perfect to me. How lucky are we if in our lives we find another human being that looks at you with those words in their heart? There is something to be said about that feeling of comfort. When the one you love looks at you with eyes that mirror your own adoration, a complete feeling of gratitude hits you with a wave of emotion.

Growing up I have had my own turn at love. Love gained and love lost. I have seen other pairs with hearts that are the same and others who seem to suffer with the one they are with, for that is all they know to be true.

So when that is true and all you know to be true seems to be unknowingly, or sometimes quite knowingly, wounding your soul, how do you open your eyes and see that there is more out there. Do you listen to your girlfriends ( or man friends) while keeping in mind the ability to read between the lines is key… for we all know how hard it is to tell a friend that the one they are with is not worthy of their time or affections. Do we listen to mom or dad… secretly wondering if they are just biased because you are their baby…Or do you listen to your heart. Stay silent and listen. If that is your choice, I hope you ponder this before your time of reflection, contemplating life’s ever evolving lessons you will find on love…



The person you are with should be able to make you smile just by hearing the sound of their name. They should call you baby or sweetheart with so much affection it seems that this is the only name they know you by. They should look at you when you are unaware and feel surrendered to gratitude that you love them back. They should tell you that you are best thing that has ever happened to them, and you should feel the same. They should search the room at a party, only to lock eyes and make you feel like you are the only person in the room. When they are away they should call you before bed, just to tell you that it is hard to sleep without you by their side. .. most importantly when you are together, no matter if it is daily or monthly, every moment should feel like a moment that you are blessed with. More time that you were given in this crazy life to love each other unconditionally.



So it is. Love and life, choices and sacrifices. Who in the end is worthy of spending our time with. I heard those words today “you are perfect to me” and was reminded how lucky I am to truly feel that the person I am with looks at me with those words in his heart. I think that we all deserve that and more. I know that I could have used many, many gentle reminders of this in my life… so here is one for you. You are perfect to someone and it is in that moment of finding them that you will realize that they are completely perfect to you as well.